Security

What you call security might be the source of your fear.

True security reveals itself when you stop needing something to feel secure.

So maybe it’s worth considering if we’ve been looking for security in the very things that create insecurity:

ideologies, nations, teams, people, favorites.

We lean on them for stability. We think they give us a base. But all they really give us is something to defend. Something to fear losing. Something others can oppose. The moment our security depends on anything outside ourselves, we live in a permanent state of threat.

That’s the trap.

We call it security, even belonging, but it’s really attachment posing as certainty. And attachment always comes with its opposite: fear.

Which brings us back to the real question.

What is security, actually?

To me, the opposite of fear is security.

Fear shows up when something in us feels unstable. People chase security constantly. The problem isn’t the effort. It’s that they’re chasing the wrong thing.

This belief over that one.
This country over yours.
This neighborhood over mine.
This player, this team, this identity.
Even the “right” way to express ourselves or address each other.

Everything we cling to for safety becomes something we must protect. So the fear of losing it becomes greed - wanting more of what we have, wanting others to validate what we think keeps us safe, wanting our worldview to be the right one.

How does that happen?

For greed to exist, someone has to be greedy, right?
And for fear to exist, someone has to be afraid.

Every reaction you have to something is downstream of the idea of the “you” who experiences it. So what happens when you remove that idea, the image that needs protecting? The real you, not a caricature. Not your labels. Not your instagram bio. None of that.

Then the entire structure collapses.

But underneath the rubble, we see we’re already secure.
Free to connect with the entirety of ourselves and others without constraints.
With energy that isn’t fractured by this or that.

Real security is here.

Being steady with what happens.
Not gripping the past.
Not rehearsing the future.

Because most fear is old conditioning, just stories we anticipate, not real danger.

So the work is simple: question the things you treat as protection.
The things you’re convinced would break you if you lost them.

What do you think keeps you safe?
What would collapse if you stopped believing that?
What would be left?
How would you feel?

Trapped? Or free?

Trace your fears back to your idea of security, and you might find the connection was never real.

And maybe then security, real fearlessness, can last for good.